Rambling over coffee.... 3 random news articles from today: Difficult Co-workers, AL botching a death on death row and a 20 year old who leaves her two babies home alone for 9 days and one dies....

Coffee break!

So, I'm reading the news and although there are probably 10 different stories I initially wanted to comment on, I grabbed 3 of them at random as I have a serious lack of time here.  It's a QUICK coffee break.

First off - I skimmed through this one quickly.  (Source: https://www.yahoo.com/news/m/e61d62b2-d07e-3910-9de5-33dd20874a3a/4-types-of-difficult.html)  It's about the 4 most difficult types of personalities of co-workers and how to deal with them....

"Everyone wants to work in a friendly and productive environment, 
but sometimes even one bad co-worker can make getting your job done 
seem near impossible."

Ahhh. Coworkers.
Since I'm now in my 40's and no longer a know-it-all 20-something with like, 5 years experience to build on; boy have I seen a plethora of personalities.  And another facet of that thought is that with age, came maturity and wisdom - and I can see now that the personalities that drove me crazy as a working 16 year old, a 20 year old, or a 35 year old are different.  To put it simply:  What I considered a difficult co-worker at 16, isn't necessarily as awful as I would have found them at 25.

One of the co-workers I've always considered awful to work with are the lazy ones.  The ones that try to 'look' busy but accomplish nothing. Sometimes our jobs haven't overlapped so it didn't directly reflect on me or effect me but other jobs I've had to take on their tasks to pull off the final project or the project would fail, I would have looked bad, or the company would have lost face in one way or another.  The frustrating thing about those people is when you don't really have recourse to TELL anyone that person is a complete fake, phony and loser.  Luckily they often dig themselves into a hole, the truth comes out and they are fired... but this is real life.  We all know that sometimes they manage to kiss butt, skate by or you have a blind boss who doesn't see it and promotes them.  Ah life... it can suck sometimes.

One of the co-workers that stands out in my mind that dug her own 'hole' and got fired wasn't actually fired for being lazy, shirking her duties or anything remotely related to the piss-poor job she did.  Instead, she was stealing from the company and got caught.  I guess that's karma for you in a weird way.


Another story from today was this one:  (Source: https://www.yahoo.com/news/alabama-inmate-coughs-heaves-during-execution-injection-122007733.html) - An Alabama inmate coughed repeatedly and his upper body heaved for at least 13 minutes during an execution using a drug that has previously been used in problematic lethal injections in at least three other states.

"Robert Dunham is executive director of the Death Penalty 
Information Center, a nonprofit that does not take an official stance
on capital punishment  but is critical of its application. 
He said Smith's execution reinforces the argument that 
midazolam shouldn't be used in executions.

"What occurred during the execution itself is exactly 
what the medical experts have been saying is likely to occur 
when midazolam is asked to do something 
that drug is not designed to do," he said. 
"It is not designed to render somebody unconscious and insensate."

Seriously people?  YOU HAD ONE JOB.........
I'm not going to take 15 minutes or so to google this topic, but the first thing that came to mind was this...  why not overdose them with morphine?  Wouldn't that work?
When my Mother was hospitalized for a minor surgery, the inept nursing staff overdosed her with morphine and another pain medication given at the same time.  She slowly went 'out of it' although her eyes remained open.  Her breathing slowed. As she was dying (an alarm was raised by my father, nursing and then doctors rushed to her room and quickly worked to bring her back from the brink - and yes, later they actually admitted they screwed up but that's a whole other story)... where was I?  OH.  So when she was overdosed with pain meds and was dying, she said later it was perfectly simple.  She said she just "went to sleep".  No pain, no knowledge of what was happening to her or even when her body was shutting down.
So every time I see news articles of inmates on death row dying horrible deaths because people are using a bunch of different drugs that aren't working... I can't help but think;  "Why aren't you just overdosing them with pain meds?"

There might be a good reason - but like I said, I am not going to look it up or study it.  Just not that interested.


Another piss poor parent: (Source:  http://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-38248836) -Ukrainian prosecutors are questioning a 20-year-old mother after she allegedly left two toddlers in her flat for nine days, and one starved to death.

"The mother, Vladislava Podchapko, had gone to her partner's flat, 
without leaving food at home, reports say.
Her son Daniil, aged one year and 11 months, died  
and his sister Anya, nearly three, remained in the Kiev flat 
with the dead body for three more days, until the mother returned."

Ok so... I actually don't have words for this one.



Busy Nights and Barber Foods

I am a BzzAgent and I received a sample of this product in exchange for my honest opinions.

Just a quick 2 minute break from the hectic schedules we all seem to have this month, to let you know about a grocery product I got to try to review from Barber Foods.  Their stuffed raw chicken breasts are a quick (35 minutes) dinner option for when you don't want to invest a lot of time in cooking but you want a healthy, yummy and hot meal on the table.

We actually used this product before they contacted me - it's something I often have in the freezer as our whole family loves them.  With 13 different varieties, it's easy to find one even your picky eaters will like.

Cordon Bleu
Broccoli & Cheese
Crème Brie & Apple
Scallop & Lobster Stuffing
Chicken Parmesan
Seasoned Homestyle Stuffing
Seasoned Mushroom & Swiss
Seasoned Broccoli & Cheese
Seasoned Cordon Bleu
Asparagus & Cheese
Seasoned Spinach Florentine
Loaded Baked Potato

Just unwrap, pop them into the oven and the aroma that fills the house while they cook will remind you of meals of your childhood when Grandma or Mom would painstakingly pound chicken breasts, fill them with a favorite filling and then bread them before baking.  You get the same aroma and flavor but a lot less work.

Paired with a vegetable or pasta, it's a quick and easy dinner that tastes like you worked harder than you did.  Got guests coming for the holidays?  Busy Christmas shopping and need something hot and filling but easy to make?  These are available at most grocery stores and are easy to keep a handful in your freezer for busy nights.


Rambling over coffee: Doctors and nurses only 'get' it when they or someone they love get cancer

Source:  https://herecomesthesun927.com/2016/11/14/dear-every-cancer-patient-i-ever-took-care-of-im-sorry-i-didnt-get-it/
Source:  https://www.yahoo.com/celebrity/oncology-nurse-diagnosed-cancer-writes-203228585.html

I've never had a mother-in-law.
She died of breast cancer when my husband was 12 years old.
He was 10 years old when she 'got sick' and although she went through a radical surgery and treatment plan; and the doctors told the family they were 99% sure they got it all... that 1% they didn't get, killed her.  Left three children without a mother.

My mother was diagnosed with cancer unexpectedly at age 51.
We didn't have cancer on either side of our family and it was a shock of course.
She also went through surgery, 6 rounds of chemo and 33 rounds of radiation.
She is currently 'cancer free' but anyone with cancer knows you never really are.
Emotionally you are always under the umbrella of fear, you live with tests and medications and in my mothers case, a permanent bracelet to warn emergency workers 'NO NEEDLES' in one arm and a hundred other small ways the cancer never really leaves your life.

And in all this...  the doctors and nurses give lip service.
Some are half way decent at empathy.
Some suck.
Some doctors and nurses are so burnt out and hardened the words 'cancer' may as well be 'ear infection' or 'common cold' and they seem heartless and cold and uncaring.
Others are warm and have a great bed side manner and seem to truly care and listen... try to understand.

But the only doctors and nurses who understand the power of the words...
The horrible, awful feeling of 'waiting' for results that takes days, and weeks...
The excruciating pain...
The fear...

are those who have had it.

About a year or two ago I read an editorial piece by someone on a very important medical research board who admitted how 'wrong' they were about those with cancer and what they went through only after their spouse got cancer.  Their entire understanding of the treatment of cancer changed after watching their spouse go through it.

I was angry.
Because that's how it is with everything.
People with power to make decisions go through life making decisions without personal experience and blow off the fear, hurt, worry, pain, suffering and frustration of others because those 'others' are strangers.  If it's your 'job' but not your 'life' you still get to go home at the end of the day... and you are not living it.

Until you do.

And once again, a professional gets cancer... and writes an editorial piece (in this case a personal blog) and she 'gets it' and not only gets it, but apologizes to all those with cancer she has worked with through the years... because she cared, but she didn't get it.

I first stumbled upon this through a news story (sourced at the top of this post) and then read the original on her blog (also sourced at the top).   For those of us with families directly touched by cancer...  I'm thankful for those professionals who finally 'get it' and understand.  And can spread the word to their co-workers and others about how it's not what they think... it's worse.


Excerpts from the news with my morning coffee that inspired my comments and thoughts on this post.....

I prided myself in connecting with my patients and helping them manage their cancer and everything that comes with it. I really thought I got it- I really thought I knew what it felt like to go through this journey. I didn’t.

Oncology nurse Lindsay Norris never imagined she’d be told the three words she had said to dozens of patients before: You have cancer.

In a blog post published on Nov. 14, titled ‘Dear every cancer patient I ever took care of, I’m sorry. I didn’t get it,’ Norris, 33, who was diagnosed with stage III colorectal adenocarcinoma in September, apologized to every patient she’s treated since she went into nursing.

“I didn’t get what it felt like to actually hear the words,” Norris, from Olathe, Kansas, wrote in the post. “That day was the worst. I’m sorry. I didn’t get it…I didn’t get how hard the waiting is…I didn’t get how awkward it was to tell other people the news…I didn’t get how much you hung on to every word I said to you.”

 "I didn’t get how hard the waiting is. It’s literally the worst part. 
The diagnosis process takes forever. The different consults, 
the biopsies, the exams and procedures… and the scans. Ugh, the scans. 
You were going through the motions trying to stay positive- but at that point, 
you had no idea what you were dealing with and the unknown was terrifying."

"Knowing the cancer is there and knowing you’re not doing anything to treat it yet is an awful, helpless feeling."

Since her diagnosis, the mother of a 3-year-old son and 7-month-old daughter has continued to work. And every night, without fail, she and her husband Camden try to keep things “as normal as possible” with their children and have dinner followed by bath time, story time and bed.

Norris is currently receiving radiation and chemotherapy tablets daily and will get a scan after Christmas to see how it’s affected the cancer. She’ll then undergo a permanent colostomy followed by four to six months of additional chemotherapy.

“I used to tell you that cancer will be just a phase in your life. Just like high school or something — it seems like it drags on and on when you’re in it, but soon it’ll all be a memory. I’m sorry if this made you feel marginalized – it is not a phase,” part of the letter reads.

“Yes, there are phases — the treatment won’t last forever, but you are changed now,” she continues. “The worrying won’t stop, the uncertainty won’t stop, the fear of recurrence or an awful end won’t stop. I hear that gets better- time will tell. And time is precious. I’m sorry. I didn’t get it.”

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Eleanor Roosevelt - first lady - carried a gun for protection

Source:  http://www.poughkeepsiejournal.com/story/news/2015/07/12/eleanor-roosevelt-gun-owner/29953377/
 July 12, 2015

(Photo: FDR Presidential Library)

First lady. Icon of liberalism. Gun owner?

Yes, Eleanor Roosevelt, known for traveling the country to highlight the plight of the poor and marginalized, also was packing heat.

The mother of five had a .22 caliber Smith & Wesson pistol with a 6-inch barrel, front sight and a round top frame with an adjustable rear sight.

With debate raging in New York and around the nation about gun control and Second Amendment rights, the fact is, one of the greats of the Democratic Party not only owned a gun, but carried it for protection!

"Eleanor Roosevelt is considered a 20th century icon of the Democratic Party and someone whose liberal politics established an enduring benchmark that continues to shape politics today. The fact that she owned a gun offers yet another dimension to the historic legacy of a president and first lady...."

 Read more here.