4.26.2016

Ranting and Raving over Morning Coffee.................

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Child protective services should be ASHAMED OF THEMSELVES for what they have become.

Over the past 10 years DHS, CPS, etc. (called different things in different areas of the US and Canada) have gone from a legit department to help keep an eye out for abuse and neglect of children to a neo-Nazi group of brain dead young idiots.

The stories are out there if you care too look... and unfortunately you don't have to try too hard to find them.  Parents letting their kids play outside like normal, healthy kids SHOULD do, are being investigated for child neglect because the parents are not literally hovering over them like helicopters.  A mother putting her cart back in the cart corral in the grocery parking lot has two drama-queens calling the police on her for leaving her child unattended in the vehicle... she was 3 car slots away putting the cart in the corral!!!  Sadly, the police officer that answered the call agreed it was wrong and she was turned into CPS.  Parents letting their kids walk 2 blocks to the bus stop, 6 blocks to the park, playing in their back yards....   THIS IS INSANITY.

One story I read last week, a woman's children were watching cartoons in the living room.  It was morning, the Mom had her pajamas on so when a delivery guy (think; UPS and FEDEX) came to the door, she didn't answer the bell, instead, let him leave the package at the door.  Not a big deal, right?

HE CALLED CPS ON HER!  Told them the children's were left attended in the house.

These calls result in visits to the parents that go FAR BEYOND  just checking to make sure the claims were bogus.

I'll get to that in a minute.  First, here is a snippet from the story this morning that made me angry about this topic all over again... because it's happening ALL THE TIME NOW!!!!

"A Canadian mom’s recent visit from Child and Family Services has caught the attention of news outlets everywhere for a number of controversial reasons. When most people think of Child Protective Services, they view the department as a safe haven for children who have been neglected or abused by their parents. So, of course, when a social worker arrived at Jacqui Kendrick’s Winnipeg home, she was quite devastated. The accusations brought against her have sparked quite a debate, because it seems as if her parental rights are being threatened without probable cause."

Stay-at-home mom Jacqui Kendrick received a visit from a social worker with Child and Family Services. The social worker reportedly asked to do a “well-being check” to ensure the safety of her children. Apparently, someone contacted CFS to complain about Kendrick allowing her children, ages 10, 5, and 2, to play unattended in her fenced-in backyard.

"... the “well-being check” process, which appears to be quite similar to an investigative probe. She was asked a series of questions about their personal life, her parenting style, and the disciplinary tactics used to reprimand her children. Needless to say, she was quite devastated by the time the process was over.

“We had to go through a whole interview asking so many questions — asking me about if we’ve ever dealt with CFS before, what my childhood was like, how I punish my children, whether we drink or do drugs,” Kendrick told CTV News. “[S]he had to look to see where my kids slept. She had to see if we had enough food in the house.”

She also recounted the times her children go out to play. She revealed they normally go outside to play after coming home from school. Even if she’s not outside with them, she can see them from her living room window and feels “completely comfortable” with them playing in the fenced-in backyard. Kendrick explained that she and her husband have taught their two older children about a rule they refer to as the “stranger danger” tactic, so they are quite aware of their surroundings and know what to do when they feel unsafe.

Needless to say, Kendrick is quite displeased with the unknown person who reported concerns about her parenting. She also had a message for that person.

“If you really had a concern, you could have knocked on my door,” Kendrick said.

To make matters worse, the seemingly awkward situation has led to the creation of a file on her family, which will always be documented. In the event another call is made to Child and Family Services, the recent well-being check will always be on file, which could possibly make things more difficult, if unfortunately, she is faced with a similar problem in the future.

Although the complaints seem relatively baseless, unfortunately, a psychologist in the Winnipeg area has admitted that the rise of the internet and social media has led many people to believe they are entitled to their opinions and feel the need to force their beliefs and perspectives on others.

While Dr. Toby Rutner agreed with Kendrick’s perspective, he admitted the opinionated world we live in has fueled people’s desires to push their own agenda.

“With the Internet, it has not only created a situation where everyone feels they are entitled to give an opinion, but [also] this approach that says everyone’s opinion is equal in value,” Rutner said.



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These interviews also often involve interviewing the children away from the parents and asking inappropriate and leading questions.  In the case of the mother in the news who got a surprise visit because some nosy neighbor put in a call because her children were playing across the street from their home 'unsupervised' the CPS worker drilled the 8 year old about whether or not the parents showed them pornography - explaining they wanted to know if the parents showed the children pictures of naked men or women or children, touching each others genitals and went into details the child knew absolutely NOTHING about and managed to completely scare the child and left the parents to deal with the aftermath of trying to explain to their innocent child what the worker was talking about leading to a premature 'sex' talk.

All because the CPS worker was called because the children were playing outside.

Another point of contention is the fact that in most states (not sure about Canada) these calls can be made anonymously!  And many times they are made out of SPITE and to 'get back' at someone.  And EVERY SINGLE CALL has to be documented, an investigation ensues and it stays on record.  And the innocent parents are not allowed to be told WHO MADE THE CALL.  

This entire situation has become a huge, screwed up mess.

CPS and DHS need to start INFORMING THESE CALLERS THAT LETTING YOUR CHILDREN PLAY OUTSIDE IN THEIR OWN BACKYARD IS PERFECTLY LEGAL AND NO - THEY ARE NOT GOING TO INVESTIGATE.

That LETTING YOUR CHILD WALK TO THE SCHOOL BUS STOP IS OK.

HAVING YOUR CHILD IN HIS CARSEAT WHILE YOU WALK THE CART TO THE CART CORRAL IS NOT GOING TO BE CALLED IN THE POLICE DEPARTMENT FOR INVESTIGATION.

CPS needs to grow some balls and start to stand up for stopping STUPIDITY.
Stop the insanity!  Just because a parent isn't doing what YOU would do or what YOU think is good enough does not mean they are in the wrong, does NOT mean the children are in ANY harm and does NOT warrant a call to CPS.

SOCIAL WORKERS NEED TO START TELLING CALLERS THEIR OPINION IS NOT BASIS FOR AN INVESTIGATION.  This is ridiculous.