I know someone out there needs to hear this... or your parents or grandparents do. Getting threats your Social Security number will be suspended? It's a scam.

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Getting threats your Social Security number will be suspended? It's a scam.

Source: https://www.foxbusiness.com/money/irs-new-social-security-scam

It's the latest twist on tax-related scams, with fraudsters attempting to scare people into returning robocall voicemails, the Internal Revenue Service warns. If the scammers make contact with a taxpayer, they typically ask for detailed personal information.

“Taxpayers should not give out sensitive information over the phone unless they are positive they know the caller is legitimate,” the IRS said in a statement. “When in doubt – hang up.”

The IRS notes it doesn't accept payment methods such as prepaid debit cards, iTunes gift cards or wire transfers – which are telltale signs of a scam. It will also not ask a person to make a payment to any entity (or individual) other than the U.S. Treasury.


A taxpayer will not be threatened with arrest or other police involvement by the tax agency, and it will always give a taxpayer the opportunity to question or appeal the amount owed.

In 2018, the Federal Trade Commission said it received 3 million consumer complaints – including more than 1.4 million fraud reports. Overall, Americans reported losing $1.48 billion – an increase of nearly 40 percent when compared with 2017.

Amounts reported stolen tended to vary by age: When people age 70 and over lost money, the median value was $751, compared with a median of $400 for people in their 20s. The median was even higher for those at least 80 years old – a whopping $1,700.

Imposter scams – where the fraudster pretends to be someone the victims trust to convince them to send money -- are the most frequently reported.

As for the preferred methods of obtaining the money, $423 million was taken by wire transfer, the most common technique. The FTC, however, saw a 95 percent increase in payments with gift and other reloadable cards.


"We can confirm from our investigation that there was never a camera in the lavatory" - And HOW can they confirm that AFTER the fact?

Source:  https://www.foxnews.com/travel/southwest-airlines-hidden-camera-bathroom-allegations-inappropriate-attempt-at-humor#

A flight attendant who is suing Southwest Airlines after allegedly finding pilots watching video footage of the plane's bathroom said that an airline official told her not to go public or "no one would ever fly our airline again."

(Renee Steinaker claims that she saw an iPad showing what appeared to be live footage of the plane's bathroom in the plane cockpit in 2017, and that one of the pilots told her it was "top secret security measure," according to court documents.)

Steinaker says that an unnamed airline official told her to keep quiet about it, telling her: "If this got out, if this went public, no one, I mean no one, would ever fly our airline again."

Southwest said that it investigated the plane and couldn't find any cameras. 
 "We can confirm from our investigation that there was never a camera in the lavatory," Southwest Airlines said in a statement.

UH - HOW can they confirm this?  AFTER the fact.  Because if you were one of those pilots and you saw that a flight attendant SAW you do this, I'm thinking THE FIRST THING THEY DID was remove the camera and delete the evidence.  By the time she could report it, get Southwest to take her seriously and FINALLY "look into it" I'm sure no camera was found.  DUH???

But then it gets better... here was the next thing they said about it... which really doesn't make any sense.  I'm not sure who they are taking about.  The pilots?  Because they surely not trying to say the flight attendant made this up to be... humorous?  Whaaaaat?

The airline also called the incident "an inappropriate attempt at humor, which the company did not condone."


Rambling over Coffee: Children are entitled to birth

My heart broke a few months ago when one after another, some states declared a baby's life to be so unimportant that it could be legally killed right up to it's birth.  A fully formed, full term, ready for life baby.  A baby that looks like the mother ready to kill it (or have it killed).  He or she has her eyes or nose, her shape of face.  Has similar shaped hands, or perhaps hands like Grandpa, with Daddy's ears and toes.  The mother has felt the baby move, kick, squirm.  If she's been paying attention, she knows the time of day he or she always gets the hiccups.  The baby likes some peoples voices better than others.  It moves away from loud noises and settles down when Mama talks.  The schedule for sleep and awake time is set and a mother knows the baby's active times.  She or the Daddy can play little 'kick' games with that baby too...  you press gently on the foot and it will press back. 

And oh that little foot!  When the baby stretches, and presses the tiny foot against your stomach you can often see the outline of that little foot!  It's joyous!

And yet, now in many states, that very aware baby... can legally be killed.

Don't fool yourself with calling it different names to make yourself feel better.

If you are pro-abortion, especially after the baby is viable outside the womb, just call it what it is.  Murder.  If you believe in it and support it, then don't try to hide your own emotions behind words that make you feel better.  Own up to it.

So... murder of a tiny little person ok by many in our society.

And yet, yesterday Congress decides it will be a felony to hurt an animal.  Human babies can be hurt... no problem.  But try to hurt a cat and they'll throw you in prison.

Whatever.  Stupidity.

Then this morning in the midst of a much, much longer comment, a tiny little piece of a sentence this person was saying jumped out at me.  The sentence was much longer and went to a different topic but this part... oh, this part says it well. 

Children are entitled to birth.


I've just never thought about it in that perfectly, simple terms before.  It's perfect in its simplicity though.

If two people have came together and their coupling has made a new life, a child... then that child has every right to life that its parents did.  Every right that you and I have.

Once life has been made, that child is entitled to birth.

By the power of life itself, children are entitled to birth.  


Let's chat about the top 100 baby boy and baby girl names.......

I'm thinking new posts for It's Just the Coffee Talking shouldn't ever be written after I've already read the news for the morning.  I come here with some ideas to talk about but it all goes right out the window after I've seen the news.  Suddenly I'm frustrated, angry and saddened and well, often, disgusted and heartbroken.

Instead, this afternoon, I've brewed a cup of coffee and decided to jump over to the social security website and look up the top 100 baby names for both boys and girls... and give some thought to them.

Names are funny things.  What one person will love, another person would be aghast at naming a child such.  I know of a couple times I've not liked the names a friend or family member picked... but I certainly kept my thoughts to myself.  Not my baby, not my choice!  However, if there was something glaringly obvious about the name I would point it out.  There are people who have named their child monikers that are actually just words... and the definition of the word is such that I'm certain they probably barely passed elementary school, have never cracked open a dictionary and forgot to 'google' the meaning of the word before putting it down as their child's legal name.

But on the other hand, I've commented on names in conversations with friends and family, and it ends up that we've not seen eye-to-eye on some of them.  One conversation, I must have seriously offended an online friend (this was about 15 years ago) when I commented how I hate the name 'Stella' and that it's just awful of a parent to name their daughter as such.  That Stella, to me, brought a image of a pink uniform wearing, beehive hairdo'd waitress from 1950.  That online friend pointed out it was the name of her daughter's best friend (then 15 years old) and that the girl was just a delight.  And her name just "fit her perfectly".  She said that as a positive, but I quietly was thinking how telling me it "fit her perfectly" was a GOOD thing when I just offered my brains image of someone with that name every time I hear it.

But... some day I might love that name.

30 years ago I couldn't imagine EVER naming a little baby girl something awful like "Ellen, Molly or Anne"  (I found an old diary where I had wrote this).  Isn't it funny that about 20 years later, I fell in love with more traditional names and Eleanor, Ellen, Molly, Anne, Margaret, Claire, Evelyn, etc. are all names I think are just lovely.  I would even use some of them if I was currently pregnant with a little girl.  Which I'm most certainly not!

So... here is the list of the top 100 names from the US Social Security site.

And some of my thoughts.

Popularity in 2018
Rank Male name Female name
1 Liam Emma
2 Noah Olivia
3 William Ava
4 James Isabella
5 Oliver Sophia
6 Benjamin Charlotte
7 Elijah Mia
8 Lucas Amelia
9 Mason Harper
10 Logan Evelyn
11 Alexander Abigail
12 Ethan Emily
13 Jacob Elizabeth
14 Michael Mila
15 Daniel Ella
16 Henry Avery
17 Jackson Sofia
18 Sebastian Camila
19 Aiden Aria
20 Matthew Scarlett
21 Samuel Victoria
22 David Madison
23 Joseph Luna
24 Carter Grace
25 Owen Chloe
26 Wyatt Penelope
27 John Layla
28 Jack Riley
29 Luke Zoey
30 Jayden Nora
31 Dylan Lily
32 Grayson Eleanor
33 Levi Hannah
34 Isaac Lillian
35 Gabriel Addison
36 Julian Aubrey
37 Mateo Ellie
38 Anthony Stella
39 Jaxon Natalie
40 Lincoln Zoe
41 Joshua Leah
42 Christopher Hazel
43 Andrew Violet
44 Theodore Aurora
45 Caleb Savannah
46 Ryan Audrey
47 Asher Brooklyn
48 Nathan Bella
49 Thomas Claire
50 Leo Skylar
51 Isaiah Lucy
52 Charles Paisley
53 Josiah Everly
54 Hudson Anna
55 Christian Caroline
56 Hunter Nova
57 Connor Genesis
58 Eli Emilia
59 Ezra Kennedy
60 Aaron Samantha
61 Landon Maya
62 Adrian Willow
63 Jonathan Kinsley
64 Nolan Naomi
65 Jeremiah Aaliyah
66 Easton Elena
67 Elias Sarah
68 Colton Ariana
69 Cameron Allison
70 Carson Gabriella
71 Robert Alice
72 Angel Madelyn
73 Maverick Cora
74 Nicholas Ruby
75 Dominic Eva
76 Jaxson Serenity
77 Greyson Autumn
78 Adam Adeline
79 Ian Hailey
80 Austin Gianna
81 Santiago Valentina
82 Jordan Isla
83 Cooper Eliana
84 Brayden Quinn
85 Roman Nevaeh
86 Evan Ivy
87 Ezekiel Sadie
88 Xavier Piper
89 Jose Lydia
90 Jace Alexa
91 Jameson Josephine
92 Leonardo Emery
93 Bryson Julia
94 Axel Delilah
95 Everett Arianna
96 Parker Vivian
97 Kayden Kaylee
98 Miles Sophie
99 Sawyer Brielle
100 Jason Madeline


Emma - surprised this is still so popular!  Remember 20 years ago when it got so popular after Ross and Rachel chose it for their daughter on the tv show Friends?  I also have a great great Aunt who just passed away at age 100 named Emma.  It's a name that stands the test of time for sure.

Noah - I loved this name back when I was a teenager... and even into my very early 20's.  After that, it started to fade.  I'm not sure how I feel about it now.  I keep wavering!

William - Oddly, I had never really thought about this name or whether I liked it or not... odd because it's a family name!  My grandfather's name, one of my siblings middle name... it wasn't until a friends nephew was born and they named him William that I never actually stopped to think about this name! I didn't care for it at the time (I think that was about 18 or 19 years ago).  However, it grew on me.  I do like it.  Not enough to use it myself, but I do like it.

Ava - I used to like this one about 15 years ago... but it's been so over used that it means little to me now when I hear it.  I guess I still 'like' it but I gloss over it when I hear or see it.  It's become invisible to me since it's been used and used and used.

James - really surprised this one is back to top popularity again.  I never thought I'd see this in the top 10.

Sophia - another name so overused that it lost all meaning or attention.  I gloss over it.

Benjamin - Again, surprised it's a top name.  I do know someone who named their baby this 2 years ago.  When she did, I started to think about it again (I had forgotten about it, mostly).  I don't care for it personally but it's not a terrible name.

Charlotte - as a teen I did not like this "old lady" name.  I had a semi-friend with this name too!  I couldn't imagine why her mother did that to her.  Now of course, there is a Charlotte in every classroom I think.

Elijah - about 18 years ago I went through a short phase where I liked this name.  Meh.
Mia - My daughter named her hamster this when she was little.  After that Mia was always 'a hamster'.

Amelia - I know it's traditional and a lot of people think it's pretty.  I think Amelia Bedelia.

Mason - Yuck.
Harper - Really thought it was cute a few years ago but it's just being used SOOOO MUCH that I'm sad.  I'm starting to not like it anymore and I don't want that to happen.

Logan - seems very 1972 to me.  And Logan's Run-ish.
Evelyn - I love this one... which is interesting.  I've had this name my whole life as it was an 'old lady' name.  But about 7 or 8 years ago I started to love it.  And still do.

Emily - people still use Emily????

Jacob - I considered this one for one of my children but that was almost 23 years ago.  And we were going to use "Jake" as his actual day-to-day name.  My nephew got the name instead and it's all turned out just fine! 

Elizabeth - never liked this name nor any of the awful nicknames that go with it.  Libby, Liz, Betty? Barf.

Henry - I always think "Oh, Henry is such a cute name" but then I think "Henry.  Henry." and I realize no, actually I don't think I like it.  But I do this every time I hear it!  Ha ha.

Avery - like the label making company.

Jackson - over done. Over done. OVER done.

Sebastian - funny, I loved this name 28 years ago - enough to have used it.  Not so much at all in the past 15.

Camila - love the flowers hate the name.

Aiden - Love this name. 
Aria - Heard my first girls name Aria back when I was a teen in 1988.  Thought it was different and pretty... but now that I'm older?  No. Not at all.

Scarlett - Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn.  Sorry... I hear the name, I think of the movie.

Victoria - a name I LOVED when I was about 12 or 13.  Yuck.  What was I thinking?  LOL.

David - I feel bad for babies named David.  Or Daniel.

Luna - I know a cat named Luna. To me it's a cute cat name!

Penelope - Penelope Pig.  Instantaneous thought.

Layla - Oh how I hate this name... let me count the ways. This and Lola.  WTF?

Jack - Such a cute name, but so over done.

Riley - it's a girls name on this list and oh how I love it.  Getting some heavy use right now which makes me sad because I really love it... and don't want to start hating it. 

Jayden - I know a boy (man?) born 30 years ago with this name. I knew his Mom, which is why I think of him as a boy even now.  LOL.  At the time it was new, different and interesting. Now, just so overdone in the past 15 or so years.  Not a fan.

Nora - another old name I grew up hating as an old lady name but oh how it's so pretty now.

Eleanor - I swore to my first born daughter in a pregnancy diary, I would never name her anything awful like this.  Now, I think it's pretty although a bit too fancy for everyday use.

Gabriel - I've loved this one for years although I don't know anyone who has used it for their son.  I couldn't because it didn't go with our last name very well. We have a family friend named Gabe and I've always loved his name.

Addison - you know how you love a name until one person ruins it for you?  That.

Aubrey - Hate this name so bad.

Mateo - cute name but you really need to have some Spanish heritage in your to pull it off I think.

Ellie - Like it but have some connotations to people with the name that kind of ruin it for me.

Stella - we've already talked about this one.  Barf.

Jaxon - thankfully a lot of people are using this for their dogs now, which is good because it's been FAR too over used for human babies.

Natalie - I hate this name.  Even if I like someone that HAS this name. I don't like her name.

Hazel - I'm sorry little girls that were given this name... I'm sure you are sweet but I'm still sorry about the name you were given.

Violet - see my comment to Hazel above. Ditto.

Theodore - I just love the name Theo but hate the name Teddy.

Aurora - Yuck.

Caleb - when I was a child I remember looking up the name Caleb in a name dictionary around 4th grade.  I found it meant "dog" and I've never liked it since. First impressions die hard.

Savannah - Smiles?
Audrey - Just as awful as Aubrey.

Asher - Have always quietly liked this one for a boy.
Brooklyn - I can't believe I had this on the 'long list' for my first born.  It was there, although I like to forget that.

Bella - dying out quickly over the past couple years... thankfully.

Claire - I wanted this for our 3rd child.  No one else in my entire extended family did.  LOL.
Skylar - I always picture it with a K on the end and say "Skylark" (the bird).

OK - I've commented on the first 50 (hit or miss) and my time is up... it was up about 8 minutes ago so I've been typing really, really fast.

Related to this post:

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Rambling over Coffee: Since when is a simple bride costume 'beyond inappropriate' and WTF is ALWAYS (Procter & Gamble's) problem!? They hate REAL WOMEN and have a problem supporting females (REAL females) with their menstrual pads because males have issues with it?

Kmart removes kid's bride costume after severe backlash: 'Beyond inappropriate'

The $6 costume, which included a white wedding gown and headband with veil for children between the ages of 4 and 6, was stripped from sale on Tuesday afternoon just two days after Shannon B launched the petition on Change.org.

“Kmart Australia regrets the decision to range the bride costume,” a Kmart spokesperson told 7 News.

Little girls love to play wedding.  They love to dress up.  They love brides!  At any wedding, just watch the little girls from age 3 to 16 stare at the bride, follow her around and want to have their photo taken with her.  Kids play "wedding" and little girls dream of the day they marry.  There is NOTHING wrong with a little girls 'bride' costume and it is CERTAINLY NOT "beyond inappropriate" and the fact that idiots started a fucking petition over something so stupid proves that they are idiots with nothing better to do or petition for real, needed change in our world... but Kmart CAVED TO THEM!??  So you know what?  Kmart is going out of business and dying anyway.  Good riddance.  You deserve because of your willingness to not only bow down to a few people bitching and complaining but it also panders to people who simply don't use common sense.  Child brides and sex trafficking coming to the minds of a few people who see this costume should NOT override the fact that it's a fucking COSTUME and little girls LOVE to play dress up as brides. 


Always to stop using Venus symbol on menstruation products to be more inclusive

"For over 35 years Always has championed girls and women, and we will continue to do so," the company said in a statement Tuesday, according to The Independent. "We're also committed to diversity & inclusion and are on a continual journey to understand the needs of all of our consumers."

Company officials added that they realize not everyone who needs feminine hygiene products "identif[ies] as female." Proctor & Gamble did not immediately respond to an after-hours email from Fox News.

The decision was lauded by trans activists but faced criticism online.

“Women are quite literally being erased from sanitary products now. Is there anywhere we are allowed to be visible!?” one woman wrote on Twitter, according to The Independent.

Advocacy group Trans Actual praised the decision.

This one infuriates me.
Just yesterday I read that a man won the women's cycling race.
Now we have men wanting to use menstrual pads.

Always you are NOT "CHAMPIONING GIRLS AND WOMEN" by once AGAIN putting MEN'S OPINIONS and wants ahead of ours. You basically are saying women and girls do NOT matter.  Only the opinion of MALES matter.  Males that are offended that the venus symbol is on a female product.

Always is a brand of feminine hygiene products, including maxi pads, ultra thin pads, pantiliners, and feminine wipes, produced by Procter & Gamble.


Removal of children from the home based on doctors opinions with zero facts? It happens often and

Source:  https://www.kxan.com/news/elgin-parents-accused-of-abuse-lose-custody-of-children-after-doctors-misdiagnose-infant/

In May 2015, Lorina and Jason Troy, of Elgin, welcomed their son but soon noticed that the infant's head kept growing. When the couple brought their child to medical specialists, they were unexpectedly accused of child abuse. Doctors claimed that the parents had repeatedly shaken their son so hard that it caused his head to swell.

"It was definitely a low blow being accused of something that you know you didn't do," Jason told the station. 

"The hospital was telling me I had to pack all my stuff
and I couldn’t be near my kids."

Though the parents questioned the diagnosis, they were dismissed.

"I told [the doctor], 'My son has never been hurt in any way. Could this be anything else?'" she recalled. "And he told me, 'Yes, but since he's a baby and can't talk, we are just going to go with abuse," and walked away."

Both of Lorina and Jason's children were allegedly taken away from them and placed into foster care.

Jason was also charged with two counts of child abuse, KXAN notes. He was purportedly forced out of his job, and he and his wife had to sell their house to pay an attorney to represent them.

"There was some doubt," Jason said. "Like was there something I did? Justice would prevail and the facts would come out."

The couple eventually got a hold of a medical expert in Maryland, who determined that their younger son, in fact, had benign external hydrocephalus, a condition that commonly occurs in infancy and childhood and results in a rapidly increasing head circumference.

Shortly after, the children were returned to the couple and the charges were dropped. The damage, however, was already done, Lorina said.

"I have seen a lot of medical conditions that can easily be mistaken as child abuse when it isn't," she said. "The proper medical experts should be hired to correctly diagnose the children instead of assuming the worst and go that way because it drastically affects the families, especially the children."

According to KXAN, the Troys can no longer sue their doctor for malpractice because they missed the two-year statute of limitations. The couple has since been in contact with the White House, Texas's governor and other legislators to help create laws that will stop children from being wrongfully removed from their parents and prevent doctors from carelessly misdiagnosing patients. 
"There were times when the loss of our children, the unbelievable accusations against my husband and the feeling that we were powerless to right the wrongs – were overwhelming," Lorina told the station. "But, we went through the most challenging events of our lives and it has made us stronger. Now, we can take our terrible situation and what we have learned, and help others in similar situations."


Anxiety t-shirts for my anxiety based humorous side!

Many people have told me I have a crazy-good memory.  That I recall things no one else would remember.  That I can remember back further than most people.  Life-long friends often shake their heads and grin and ask me how in the world I remembered a certain event, name, place or date.

But sometimes having a good memory isn't all that great.

Like, when you recall things you don't wish to remember.  Don't want to relieve.  Don't want to feel the feelings that particular memory brings back.

I'm not talking about huge, awful, horrible things... although that could be another post.

No, this is just random little everyday memories that took place and they instantly all come back to me when I see a face, hear a name, see something that causes me to remember.

Some of those things are so minor that if I attempted to explain the memory to someone else, they wouldn't be able to understand why I didn't like that memory.  Why I didn't want to feel the feelings it brought back.  Because they really are quite small in the grand scheme of life.

That mean thing that someone said to you...
That person that hurt your feelings...
The get-together you weren't invited to...
The back-handed compliment that wasn't a compliment but more like a 'mean girl' comment...
The look you got from a peer or neighbor that spoke volumes and made you feel stupid...
The person that judged you... wrongly.

All small things, but things that I wish I could forget!

All things that probably contribute to the amount of anxiety I feel today in social situations!  Ha ha.

And why I probably love all these anxiety t-shirts I've been bookmarking at Amazon lately and am pondering purchasing.

Eff My Anxiety T-Shirt

Womens A Large Group of People is Called A No Thanks Tshirt Anti-Social Tee for Ladies (Dark Heather Grey) - L

Womens I Came I Saw I Had Anxiety So I Left Sassy Top Funny Tee for Ladies (Black) - M

Anxiety Is My Cardio Funny Anxious Nervous People Gift T-Shirt


From the WTF files - since when does attacking your husband with a fricken NERF gun warrant getting arrested for domestic abuse!?

Source:  https://www.foxnews.com/us/louisiana-woman-attack-husband-nerf-guns-infidelity

A Louisiana woman who suspected her husband of 12 years was cheating on her was arrested Monday for allegedly attacking him with Nerf guns.

"Authorities in West Monroe on Monday responded to a domestic disturbance. The victim told police his wife had been arguing with him over suspected infidelity, according to the arrest report. He accused his wife of attacking him with Nerf guns and said he ran out of the house.
Anh Thi Pham was arrested Monday for allegedly attacking her husband with a set of Nerf Guns.

According to the report, the woman chased her husband down the road. Deputies said there were minor cuts and scrapes on the victim’s arm and face from the reported battery.

There were four children in the home during the fighting, the affidavit said. A deputy who contacted Pham said she was holding two plastic Nerf guns, the News-Star reported.

Pham allegedly admitted to hitting her husband for his supposed infidelity, the report said. She was arrested and booked into the Ouachita Correctional Center on one count of domestic abuse child endangerment. No bail has been set."

THIS SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN AN ARREST!?  WTF is wrong with people today?  It's a nerf dart gun.  NERF.  As in... SPONGE darts.  And she is now charged with domestic abuse child endangerment because she shot a suspected cheater husband with a fricken NERF spongey little squishy toy dart and there were 4 kids at home?  WTF!??????  You tell her to calm down... ask the husband if there is somewhere else he can stay tonight while things cool down... and then you LEAVE.  You don't f$#King arrest someone for this crap.  Save arrests for SERIOUS OFFENSES.

... it's just the coffee talking again.