No School Dress Codes in the 80's - I Wore My Samantha Fox Ripped Bum Jeans with Pride

The photo that went with the story from the news and the Mom's Facebook (source link below)

Today I was clicking through a quick news articles and saw one that caught my eye.  The high school daughter had worn a pair of jeans with a rip.  In the knee.  Yep, the KNEE.  And although ripped jeans are against dress-code and the daughter shouldn't have worn them because of the rip...in the KNEE... the male administrator who came to the classroom during a quiz to reprimand her, called her out for not considering BOYS and their hormones when choosing her wardrobe.

Ummm... really?  If a bare KNEE is going to get their hormones raging, I think that's their problem not hers.  But anyway;  here is part of the story and I'll tell you afterwards why I found this so funny.

The mother of a teenage girl who was suspended for wearing ripped jeans is accusing her daughter’s high school of sexism.

Melissa McKinlay, the mayor of Palm Beach County, Fla. took to Facebook to express her frustration after her daughter received a dress code violation for wearing ripped jeans to school.

“In the middle of a quiz in her IB History class, a male administrator came to (the) classroom, told her she needed to consider the guys in her class and their hormones when choosing her wardrobe,” McKinlay wrote.

The Forest Hill High School teen was given an in-school suspension for the remainder of the day. She missed her classes and was unable to finish her quiz.

“I’m sorry but EXCUSE ME? Perhaps she should have worn a different pair of jeans,” McKinlay continued. “But why should she have to worry about dressing a certain way to curtail a boy’s potential behaviour?”

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This incident is just one of many where school staff punish and sexualize teenage girls under the guise of protecting them from male attention.

“A boy’s potential inability to control his hormones warrants my daughter’s inability to attend her classes today and miss valuable curriculum?” the outraged mom continued. “A male administrator yanked her out of a classroom because of a damn KNEE? Did he pull the boys out who were wearing shorts? They have TWO knees showing?”

McKinlay went on to accurately accuse the school of “sexism, victim blaming and girl shaming.”

The upset mother also said that she understood if her daughter was given a dress code violation for the ripped jeans, but the reason the administrator gave her daughter was inappropriate.

“If she needs a lunch detention for being slightly out of dress code, so be it.” She said. “But this? No. Not an appropriate response. EVER.”

Mayor McKinlay attempted to set the record straight, and once again reiterate that her daughter should not have been told to consider her male classmate’s hormones when dressing.

“The lesson I taught her, as I have done countless times to women across this county thru my advocacy, is if a boy were to ever hurt her, harass her, assault her or rape her, it is NOT her fault and her outfit is NEVER to blame,” she said in a Facebook post. “I remain absolutely unapologetic for the life lessons I’ve taught her. And it is a shame the media and members of the public fail to recognize why I was upset. Imagine someone basically telling your child that if she was raped, it was her fault because she wore ripped jeans.”

Once upon a time I was a teenager.
And it just so happens I'm a kid of the 80's.
And you might remember a certain pop star at the time that was basically my idol.
Samantha Fox.
And you might also recall her jeans with a rip in the bum, featured on her first album.

I not only loved her music, but her style fit my personality as well and sure enough - I did make and wear the ripped bum jeans.

Yes the rip was up that high on the butt.

And YES I wore them to school.

And NO I didn't get in trouble for it... back then schools still had common sense and stayed out of your personal business; like, how you wanted to dress.

As a matter of fact I specifically remember one day (I would have been 17 or 18 at the time) I had a pass from class to go somewhere (don't recall where) but because it was during class, I was the only person in the hallway, and I had to walk a very long stretch.  There were footsteps behind me and a voice chuckled and called out to me something about "You might want to buy a new pair of jeans, I think those have a rip in them!"  -  Attempting a joke of course.

The funny part of that?
The person walking behind me kidding me about my ripped bum jeans, was our high school Principal.
He laughed. I laughed.  Told him I made them myself.  We both went on our way.
Pretty much how it should be.

I have a few random old photos on my computer so I went back to see if there were any pictures of me in my ripped butt jeans but I didn't see any.  I did however find a couple of my boyfriend-at-the-time-now-my-husband in HIS ripped jeans.

Do you think the administrator of the school would have approached him and told him to think about the girls hormones when he dressed for school? 

Another photo of my boyfriend at the time (now my husband) in yet ANOTHER pair of jeans... which he wore to school that day.   Because in 87, 88, 89 and 90 we bought new jeans and immediately added bleach to the wash water and got out the scissors to cut those babies up!  Ripped jeans (with rips anywhere we wanted them) were 'the look'.

Even at school.

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Although it's not 'coffee' it's the next best thing... tea.  And it's The Lord of the Rings themed!

Now, I'm a coffee drinker much more than I am tea but as an old fan of The Lord of the Rings (meaning; I didn't just discover LOTR when the movies came out but read the original book series when I was a teenager.  Loved the series so much that as a newlywed, my husband and I would lay in bed and I would read the books out loud before we fell asleep!)

While on Amazon (looking for printer ink of all things; not even CLOSE to tea!?  But you know how that goes...) I saw these Lord of the Rings themed tea.  I just had to feature them on Coffee Talking!

Hobbiton Meadow Mint 

Bilbo Baggins Breakfast Blend  

Gandalf the Gray  

And because I couldn't end there, I decided to add some links to other fun Lord of the Rings Theme Gifts that could be packaged in a basket, bag or box to make a great Lord of the Rings themed gift for a friend, family member or... maybe even yourself.

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Just rambling over coffee: In the news this morning - Burying a Gun outside a Courthouse

I haven't been 'rambling over coffee' when it comes to the news lately because, frankly it just takes too much time to cut and paste and copy parts here, linking to the source and then typing out the thoughts and comments made while reading it.

And by the time I do all that I think "Who cares?" anyway and delete. 

But... honestly I'm procrastinating letting the dogs in right now after going potty because their feet are muddy and it's going to be a pain to wipe them down and get them cleaned off so one more cup of coffee is in order.

Now, these are not the most interesting news stories I read this morning.  And I'm not EVEN going to get into anything remotely political, because dude, I'm totally ignoring all that crap right now.  Sometimes you just have to step away to gain back some positivity in life.  So....

The first story.....

Suspected burglar caught burying gun outside Georgia courthouse 

A suspected burglar trying to hide his gun from police dug a hole – for himself.

Sheldon Oliver, 23, was taken into custody by police in Georgia last week after surveillance footage captured him burying a loaded gun outside the Forsyth County courthouse, where he was set to appear as a suspect in a prowling case.

“In today’s world, you can’t take anything for granted,” Forsyth County Sheriff Ron Freeman told FOX5 Atlanta. “Was it something innocuous? Could it have been an explosive device? Was it something else?”

Video footage obtained by the station shows Oliver pulling out a Louis Vuitton bag with the gun inside and then crouching down and burying it in the gravel outside the building.

He then walked through the metal detectors inside and was promptly arrested by police, who had a warrant out for him following an armed burglary at a local Islamic center, FOX5 Atlanta reported.

Oliver was charged with burglary, reckless conduct and carrying a weapon without a license and, as of Tuesday, was being held at the Forsyth County Jail on a $25,000 bond.

When I read this I was thinking I knew exactly 'why' he did it.  Because he was carrying.
And he was walking into a federal building.
He realized he can't bring it in with him... and had an 'oh crap' moment.
So he buried it in the gravel so he could go do his business and then get it on his way back out.

And the reason I thought that is purely based on personal experience!  Ha.  But in a COMPLETELY different context.

So, a few years ago two of our kids' passports were expiring and my husband needed a passport.  Our kids were all teenagers by this time - I'm thinking they were probably about 18, 17 and 14.  Getting their busy schedules to coincide with my husbands and mine to get to the courthouse to do the paperwork and photos needed was a chore.  We finally were able to get the photos but then we had to try to find a time between school, sports, part time jobs, lessons, and work schedules for my husband and I.  One day we realized that due to some last minute changes, we could do it - so at the last second we got our 17 and 14 year olds and told them to hurry and get into the vehicle; we had to get to the courthouse (in the next town) before it closed.

We arrived, found parking (2 blocks away) and rushed to get up to the courthouse.  It was February, in the midwest and there was of course, snow on the ground.

Just as we were approaching the doors  I read the posted signs about the obvious 'no guns' etc. inside the building but they also listed knives, and a few other items as well.  And we could see the security set up right inside the doors with the officers, the walk-through metal detectors, etc.

My 17 year old son stopped.  "Oh no!  Hey, Mom!  I have a pocket knife in my pocket..."
Oh crud.
Like many midwest teens, and farm kids, it's not a big deal to carry them in your pocket.  But... our family never goes to the courthouse so he didn't know you couldn't bring things in.  His knife was large - not the little mini 2 inch size, the real pocketknives.  We glanced back towards where the car was parked, over 2 blocks away.  We glanced at the time.  If there was any sort of line inside for passports we might not make it; the courthouse would close and we drove all this way.

Last second decision, he ran from the sidewalk, over to a snowdrift and buried the knife into the snow.

And then we went into the courthouse and went through security.

At the time I commented they probably had that on security cameras and would go out and dig in the snow to see what he buried!  But we had to rush to the passport department and, whew.  We made it.  When we exited the courthouse after mailing off the passport paperwork, he went to retrieve his knife in the snowdrift.

We honestly thought it might not be there... that they may have came out to see what it was he buried and taken it.

But surprise!  It was there.  Our son retrieved his knife, we walked back to the car and we went home.

And that was the memory that came to mind when I read this news article!

It's just the coffee talking again.....

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